In 1987, after losing her husband and 3-year-old daughter to AIDS within six months of each other, Patricia Nalls, Founder and Executive Director of The Womenâs Collective, learned that she was HIV positive. At the time of her diagnosis, there were few, if any, services designed specifically for women living with HIV/AIDS in the Washington, DC metropolitan area. Patricia found herself repeatedly trying to receive support and services in an environment that catered mainly to gay men. As a single mother, her familyâs needs were different and distinct from those of men. Like many women, she frequently found herself in situations where she faced enormous challenges as a single head of household trying to make ends meet. Patricia worried about how to disclose her HIV status to her children, how to deal with the grief her children were experiencing, and who would take care of her children if she got sick or died. It was a time fraught with anxiety, but what began as intense feelings of despair ultimately turned into determination to live to see her children grow and thrive.
In 1990, Patricia decided to take action to provide support to other women in her situation. She set-up a private phone line in her home for women living with HIV to share their struggles and concerns. This phone line, which she advertised through flyers in her doctorâs office, gave her and other women strength and hope. Patricia kept the phone line secret because of the HIV stigma that existed back then and continues today. As the number of women increased, she transformed the group into a confidential support group for women. The women named this haven the Coffee House, a place to come together to laugh, cry, share resources, and gain strength from each other.